Suggest you

1) Have your own party, invite both Scrabble buffs and loose musicians for an all-night jam session/Scrabble tournament (some musicians will show up after gigs, too, that way). "BYOB and a platter of nibblies" as part of the invite cuts down on the prep work for you.

2) Talk her into "putting in an appearance" at someone else's party where you can find the above or its equivalent. Talk about how hurt they'll be if you don't. Maybe she'll enjoy herself and want to repeat the effort, if you don't do something so embarassing she feels the need to start the new year by sending out apologies...(joke).

Sarah