Wendy, I can but echo your words; so eloquent & full of love & compassion.
Dan, your posts convey so clearly your pain & distress. Be strong in public if you feel that's what's needed, but make some private space for yourself. Every tear you shed is a measure of the Love you felt for your Mother & she for you & your Family. Talk, cry, remember, laugh, talk some more, cry some more, remember things & times you thought were long forgotten. The Carousel of Grief does eventually begin to turn more slowly.
      Wendy's right when she says: "The most loving and supportive group of people sail on Jane's Rainbow...."
      We're here when you need us,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
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