Thanks Blandiver. You are so right. This isn't about personal issues.

Too true! But it gets personal pretty quick around here. Jack the Sailor even opened a thread trying to 'get to know me' FFS - I humoured it, but really ought to have told him to feck off. Too polite! This is not what we're here for. Others have similar tactics - gets a bit cloying & awkward, you end up feeling embarrassed just for posting - as I did with the the 'getting to know you' thread.