A christian is someone who believes a)that jesus of nazereth was christ, the prophesied redeemer and son of god the father who was the one god of the jews, and b) that you are one of the people so redeemed. It doesn't matter if you follow what was ascribed to him or not. Many people live very peaceful and loving lives that are not believers in christ, and so are not christian, and many believers in christ do not live such lives and are still christian.
Now we can restart the thread, eh!