I am so sorry for your dilemma, Claire. I do understand. When my brother had to be routinely catheterized because of his bladder cancer, they worried about introducing infection into the tract and the bladder itself. Infection, of course, can make one deathly ill.

I wish there were a way to ensure that everyone working in the care capacity was empathic, conscientious and capable. When all is said and done, it comes down to the bosses and the care that they require their staff to give.

It would be instructive if ALL personnel were required to spend at least a week in a wheelchair with all its limitations.

Let us know how this develops.