Are you saying, in order to defend your view that the first war was well led, that you are willing to say the second wasn't?

No. I am saying that that is the price that has to be paid to defeat a powerful modern army.

Now you know that your uncle survived a casualty rate as high as that of WW1, you should respect him all the more.

You people know nothing.
Hopefully you are learning something as we go along.