Thanks. I think forgiving is just giving up the grudge. It doesn't mean you're absolving the other person, or thinking they shouldn't be punished legally. It just means you let go of your own stake in it. Of course, I'm not looking at it from a religious point of view.

Think about who suffers when you don't forgive someone. Not the other person. Of course, I suppose one could also not forgive someone else for "making" you feel all that bad shit, but if you're finding reasons why it's right to do so, it's not anyone else's fault but yours. It's hard to move forward when you're always trying to fix what already happened, and you get twisted.