Georgiansilver, that was very well put, and explains it to me in a nutshell. I agree that being spiteful, spreading gossip and seeking revenge does one no good at all. And being 'hooked in' to a bitter, unforgiving attitude is harmful to oneself. I've been mulling over all that folk have posted here, and I think I could lead a Lenten group on the subject with all the ideas expressed by so many intelligent and enlightened posters. (I have led groups before during Lent.) Forgiveness, repentance and starting anew would make a super topic. I've been jotting down a few points already, with a view to having a structure for debate. And nobody has been insulting, unpleasant or abusive - HOORAY!!!