Bill, haven't read your link in full, but I'm sure most people would agree that most men and women see sex differently.
The young lady says that society promotes young men as unable to "control themselves sexually". That is patently untrue, but young men are naturally driven to look for sex as often as possible and to look for sexual signals.
So within society young men are always under pressure to control their sexual feelings. Some are better at this than others.
The old question is not quite as simple as it seems.