As I've already said, I've sadly never been a mother, but I should imagine a mum would rather stay at the table or the social event and feed her baby there, than be banished out of sight into a side room. And feeding can take quite a long time; while everyone else is chatting and enjoying their meal, the mum is excluded from the group. The mums I saw in Africa had the baby attached to or near the breast almost all the time, they didn't sit quietly in a mother-baby private moment, they went about their business selling/buying in the market, bent double washing clothes in plastic bins on the ground, bashing away with their huge pestles and mortars, and it was fascinating to see the little ones gamely getting their milk as naturally as anything. There didn't seem to be a 'time' for the feeds, they just fed whenever they wanted to. I don't suppose that's possible here, but a middle path could surely be found, if folk would accept it.