Somehow I have to ask myself whether 'josepp' has perhaps had reason to look into him/her/itself and has seen something which blatantly contradicts their accepted and deep-rooted perception of themselves. Or had a best friend suddenly swapped sides? As it is the posting could almost be a job application for the Daily Mail.

Life plays its tricks on us and it's up to us to make what we can out of the situation. Living in denial ties up energy which could be put to far better uses, artistic, social, political or whatever. Accepting yourself for who and what you really are, rather than merely paying lipservice, is a release, believe me. Rather than continueing to beat your head against a wall you realise that you're standing close to a door, and that door is ajar. If only my voice was a little lighter............

Some people also need to learn that there is not simply either XY or XX. There is, on the contrary, a wide range of combinations with corresponding implications.