Bill D, I agree with pretty much everything that you say.   If you want to find the source that some extreme radical muslims use for justification I think you should examine the Hadith rather than the Qur'an.
For a radical feminist critique of the Hadith I would recommend Fatima Mernissi. It is fascinating to read her in conjunction with the Hadith and to see how misinterpretation (some of it wilful) has led to so much sadness and avoidable tragedy.
I have no doubt that there are people out there who could address Christian tradition in the same way.