I was just trying to remember how I met most of the men I currently am friends with.

* Two were co-workers, neither is married, both are in their 50s, both are straight
* Five were tenants of a building I once managed. I am no longer close with any of them although we still have coffee when we happen to meet and bring each other up to date. Four are married now, I have no idea whether the remaining one is straight
* One I met through a woman friend; he is gay
* One I met through the gay man. He is also gay
* Two are single men, elderly but interesting, that I met where I now live. We play cards together and have long talks. I think they are straight.
* Most of the rest of my men friends I met through music. Most of them are married, several are single. Not one is below 40.

All of these men are friends, i.e. if I needed help they would help.