"as I'm sure the 'guest' whose been on my back trying to make out I had a real problem with them, won't say a thing". Sorry to disappoint you. Every time you open your mouth you condemn yourself. If you really knew anything about transgender you would have realised from the terms I use that I do know what I'm talking about. As for "No doubt they were merely hoping I'd mention my connection with someone who was," if you mean by this that I was hoping you would out someone - no. Outing someone is a major no-no, which you ought to know, since you are so knowledgeable about trans* issues.