Bonnie, sorry if I upset or offended you in any way. I didn't mean to--I intended my comment to be more jovial than it seems to have come off. My point had more to do with not letting yourself think too much about that sort of thing...I know, from my own experience that it is easy to do.

In all seriousness, one last time, check MeetUp.com--Here is the description of one group called "Pacific Beach 45+Single Women Weekend Friends" in San Diego-

"This group is for single (divorced, widowed, separated, we're not picky about labels) women 45+ who enjoy the beach, movies, brunch, happy hour, the zoo, picnics, festivals, shopping, hikes, etc., but are tired of doing these activities alone. So, what I'll be doing in this meetup is scheduling something I would normally do, alone - go to the SD zoo, relax on the beach, take in a Saturday matinee, grab a bit to eat, or ride my beach cruiser on the boardwalk. "

And that it just one group--for instance, there are dozens of photography groups, at least a million hiking/biking/kayaking groups and, like all MeetUp groups, they are everywhere in the world.