PS. I should say however Eliza that you seem to have improved over the years. When you first came here you were very ready (far too ready in my view) to condemn young women who assumed the same liberties as young men. I have not seen you do that recently.   I also felt an air of unreality about the way you revealed your husband (and the fact that you did not I think have a language in common when you met) - I seem to remember it was in a discussion of racism (or maybe it was homosexuality), and you I think sought support from your husband's nationality. My thought at the time was that it seemed a bit too convenient.

M the GM - you should try to find a more accurate adjective than "scattergun". My condemnations benefited from precise and disclosed aim.

Grishka: Although the 'cat seems to be running well right now (thank you Max) she has been a bad tempered lady in the past when her internals were fiddled with. Your solution might well be harder to implement than you think. If it does work, why not seek a real name - no penalty at that stage but quasi-member ship lost if found to be false. Indeed why not start a real name policy for all new members and seek to get existing members to rename in real names?