I still say focus on the future. What kind of world do you want and how do you intend to get there? Yes, if you forget the lessons of the past you're bound to repeat them in the future, but learn the lessons of the past and don't wallow in it. It's a tendency in the folk world to live in the past, sure, and even more so in the Military, when the need to justify oneself to the beancounters is almost all in what you've done and not what you're doing, but even so, it's only a part of the real world and it's out of proportion. Instead of diminishing it increases: when I was young, it was just Remembrance Sunday, now it's 11th as well and it's getting to be weeks either side of it too. That's morose to the point of sickness. The dead gave their lives so you should live, not spend all your days moping. The women they left behind became the maiden aunts of my youth, and are now gone. Our generation lost 453 in Afghanistan, and 179 in Iraq, with 47 in the Gulf War. The order of magnitude is completely different, and whilst there is no moral difference between one and a million, the effect on the population is different in real terms.
And to come back to the core of the meme, to do this, they cheat and con. That does discredit their cause, in my opinion, which is a hard and terrible conclusion to come to. The dead deserve to be treated better than this, and the people who pulled it should be ashamed of themselves - but obviously aren't. Until this comes back into proportion, my respects to them will be my own, and not this. And that, I would venture, is how it should be, because then it will be the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.