I got married in the same church that my parents got married in we exchanged rings though neither of us ever wore them again. When the old women used to comment my answer was "If we are not married in head and heart no bit of metal or piece of paper will keep us together." Together we remained for 28 years till he died I still don't wear a wedding but I am as married to him today As I was on the day we exchanged our vows there is not another will replace my lad.

Dorothy your comment on communication reminded me of something I was taught when I was learning to become a trainer "Now lets just check that what I think I said and what you think you heard is the same thing."