Snip "but I remain convinced that there would be plenty of support here if this person wanted to come clean an start afresh. Jon " Snip

Perfect. Jon I could not have said it better. I tried with a coupla hundred words...You did it in 20 something.

The Cafe is there to help not hurt..(or am I a newbie speaking out of turn and pissing on the carpet?)

Now we need the Cafe residents to ask Him / Her to come clean and feel that unconditional acceptance.

It's hard for a stiff upper lip English Lancashire Tripe Hound being this open and bonding type of thing but sometimes we just need that tea tax.....!

Tosp.