Was that a quote Matt?

One thing I've come to think is that the real trouble sometimes isn't when you offend people, but when you don't.

What I mean is, for example you can have an ethnic joke that isn't meant as racist ,and which you'd happily tell in the presence of friends from that ethnic group (who any even have told it to you) - but tell it in the wrong company and you find someone taking it as a signal to open up the racism they've been keeping tactfully out of sight.

Though I suppose if it brings them out in the open you know who they are and what they are.