No Matt, all of us take it any way we choose to. There is more than just a little bit of determinism in the mix, here.

You can hang your hat on something that is never going to happen, but generally all that leaves you with is a cold head.

~Elle

A fine romance with no kisses
A fine romance, my friend, this is
We should be like a couple of hot tomatos
But you're as cold as yesterday's mashed potatos