Those I have seen: Pushing Hands--Virtually no violence. Intense contemporary story of Chinese husband/American wife in NY-NJ. Complications arise when father moves in from Taiwan.

The Wedding Banquest-- Only film I've ever seen that was shot in New York and needed subtitles. Taiwanese father visits son in NY. Conflicts of cultrues and lifestyles. No violence. Superior film. One of his best.

Eat, Drink, Man, Woman--Master chef has three daughters. No violence. Beautiful story, Great twists. You WILL want to have Chinese food for dinner the night you see this film!

Ride With The Devil--Civil War costum piece. Great cast, settings, story. Sorry...not up there with the rest of them. A little too much on talk, dulled his usualy fine edge.

The Ice Storm--(Didn't see this one) Most people who saw it, loved it.

Chow Yon Fat in none of them. The actor who played Sir Te (the wing chun master in Beijing) is in all of them (except the Civil War film). He pals the chef, a retired general, and a Tai Chi master (in different film).

There's a few more but start with these...