It does seem a bit daft arguing about something that didn't happen. But then people do it all the time - .why was Hamlet so indecisive?"

Actually I don't think we had enough information in the scenario to make any firm judgement. For example circumstances could occur where leaving a child in a foyer area in a cinema might seem quite reasonable. There could be other children involved inside the cinema who could not be left or taken out - and the very presence of police in the foyer could be seen as a safeguard rather than a threat - "Now you mustn't leave here, even if if somebody told you to. And there's a nice policeman over there, so you,re quite safe."

But on the main point I quite agree that people have a responsibility for ourselves and our dependents. But if we act foolishly in this regard that in no way reduces the guilt of those perpetrating violence, whether we are talking about children attacked, or rape, or car theft . There isn't some limited amount of blame, so that, if the actions of victim or someone with a responsibility for the victim, in some way contributed to something happening that somehow reduces the guilt of other people. It doesn't.