Thanks for sharing this Keberoxu. Having lost my mother (a refugee and boat person from Europe and WWII) at 87 a few months ago and writing her obituary while going through her detailed papers, aspects of what you say resonate for me too as I reflect and look back on growing up and our relationship in past times.

Now I know I cant change the past but that doesn't mean I/we cant look back and still draw lessons that have relevance to the present or to the near future as my/our life paths slowly wind down. Hopefully you will be able to construct a working solution and that you can live with that in reasonable comfort. Hopefully you might also have people around you who can support you in your endeavours as well.

Kind regards and best wishes Kbx :-)

Andrez