Lesse, we were talking about confidence and such, weren't we? Confidence was a total stranger to me when it came to being around women. Here's a brief story about how my life once was:

Years ago I shared a dwelling (okay, it was a trailer, are you happy now?) with two other guys. They would cruise the local bars regularly and would almost invariably come back with companions for each of them. I was far too withdrawn to ever attempt such a feat. What would I say? Who would care if I said anything?

It wasn't until years later that I learned that those guys were telling the women, "Hey. Do you like folk music? You just MUST come hear our roommate."

The women would come along to hear the roommate. I would sit in the living room and sing songs for hours. At some point during the evening, each of my friends would whisper something to their respective companions and moments later I would be alone while everyone else had disappeared into the bedrooms.

I was honestly in awe of this. For years, I wondered what it was that was said that had such dramatic results. In fact, I am still wondering.