Justa Picker, I'm having a difficult time resolving some of the things you said in your posts.

First you said:

"Be yourself Carol, always."

Then you said:

"Always wait for the other to initiate or make the first move, no matter how much you want to jump his/her bones. Keeps them off balance and they will work harder to "make you like them". And never lose your cool. You can do primal screams when you get home, if contact wasn't initiated. Remember in certain situations dating is a lot like playing poker or Eucre. You want a poker face and you don't want to play your trump card till the other one has first."

I don't see how you can be yourself if you are behaving toward another person according to a strategy such as you have described.

Carol