That's right. There's no silver bullet. Every time I thought I had it figured out I ran into a new situation that changed the "rules" yet again.

One thing I have noticed, though. When you finally decide that you're perfectly okay on your own...then sometimes people decide they're interested in you. Probably because you aren't projecting that "desperate" quality any longer. This is also the case when you're already in a happy relationship, of course. Offers abound. How ironical.

It's the same with banks. They only want to lend you money when you don't need it!

- LH