I read "The Rules". Most people look at it really superficially, and don't understand that what it's really saying is "respect yourself, get a life, and the guys'll fall over themselves asking you out." Which is what happened for me when I got a life.... *g*

The rules are only for people who don't know how to respect themselves and their creative/work projects when they're in a relationship or hoping to be in one. A lot of people won't even make themselves a candlelit dinner for one, because they're not doing it for someone they love. Pitiful, really. You gotta love yourself first, and love is really a series of actions - or decisions.

If you decide to treat yourself with care and respect, that is love.

If you decide to let someone else into your life, that is love. Then you can decide if you want to go through life together with this person. But you treat yourself well first, or you won't know how to treat the other person when you've "got" them.