Kimmers, you had extended family and one-on-one after school care. This is vastly different from the baby farms with one or two staff for a whole yardful of children.
Of course no one should have to stay in an abusive relationship but I believe that a lot of this is due to the fact that there is so much selfishness and meism going on. Men are unable to put their wants aside for the good of their families. They don't accept that they can't have all their wifes time or that they can't go out and party with the gang every night.
The women have never learned how to divide their time so that husband and baby get a share and neither side wants to give up the old lifestyle and really be parents.
So you get abuse.
Thanks for the support on don't do it if you don't mean it.
I know I have not expressed myself well on the subject of abuse and I'll get some flack for it. But I do feel that a large part of the problem with families and schools today stems from selfishness on the part of parents who have unrealistic expectations of just how much work it takes to parent a child.

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