Marion, I don't agree with some of what he's told you, BUT if there is anyway that you can keep going, with a tape recorder, just to get his stories down, you would be perfoming an incredible service for all of Folkdom! They sound like classics and when he is gone, so will they be, unless someone like you can capture them. He sounds like a real gem.

As for hand positions, etc. my dad was not classically trained, yet at almost 84 he still fiddles and keeps his wrist down, not touching the neck, as you describe your teacher doing. I think it really is best whatever feels most comfortable to you, although there are certain ways which will make it easier for you to play in specific ways, etc.

Good luck, maybe there would be a way for you to learn from elsewhere, too and just take what you agree with from him and leave the rest and enjoy those stories. I would love to hear them!

kat