Montreal

Charmion! You are living in a situation that would make me dreadfully ill in minutes. Breathing drywall dust and sawdust are very much not recommended. Perhaps you could, at least, tightly close the BR so you are not breathing in that stuff all night as well.

Tonight, I hope to broach the subject of finding a home for both of us in less urban Quebec - 30 minutes from the centre of R's work area rather than 15 minutes. I found 4 on line today at reasonable prices - small, suburban, with yards and parking. One even backs onto a nature preserve! This will be an initial suggestion and maybe shot down instantly but nothing ventured, nothing gained. I am concerned that he does not eat properly, by his own admission, when I am not in residence, cooking and serving his tired self.

Considering the condition of this house and the fact that he actually is considering the possibility of selling it, which, of course, does not mean it will happen in my lifetime but hope does spring eternal. Being rid of this derelict heritage house could be the most monumental bit of de-cluttering in both our lives!

We visited a friend of 49 years, and his wife, yesterday. We sat down in their modestly furnished but clean, comfortable and tidy LR and my first comment was "On my, a nice gentile, middle class LR!" (Very dear friends!) What a pleasure to be in an uncluttered LR, and DR! Maybe I have been away from Beaver too long.