The main problem is the language, and the need to nail things down with a concrete, inflexible definition. I have several transgender friends that I know of. For me, gender has little to do with my friendship. Other than being able to communicate with one another, I don't care.

Wear whatever the hell you want to wear. People who would care what another person wears are...we need a different word than "busybodies". We'd be better off seeing people as individuals instead of genders. Everybody's different.