M Ted beat me to it; She-Who-Thinks-She-Must-Be-Obeyed should have had her network software, etc. in reserve somewhere. She sounds like the type who (of course) isn't perfect, it's not that she's always right; it's just that she's never wrong/it's never her fault.
If your cousins live nearby, stop over and give them and their mom a hug. If they are too far away, call, send e-mail, or drop a card. Too many people drop out of sight after the funeral, and kids that age can always use somebody to talk to, no matter what their circumstances (if circumstances take that turn).
Now, as for you, young lady, (((((hug))))). You're not burdening us; you have the wisdom to know that a few words here will keep your suffering from having a chance to expand even more. :)