Amergin, Helen, priceless posts. Julie, don't belittle or denigrate your pain. It is plenty big enough for your shoulders. Doesn't matter what problems other people have, won't make YOU feel better, and that is the operative phrase. Go for a long walk. Cry for your uncle. Write a long letter to your Aunt, and cousins, with all the wonderful memories you can muster up. Will help you, and them. And post Helens letter in that fatheads computer at work....someone needs to share with her what a fathead she is! Love and prayers your way.