I'm not out to insult anyone. But there are are times when it is important to speak directly to people whose minds seem to be closed. The thing is that it's so easy to hide behind this "bugger off, you are just being PC" brainlessness, as three people in this thread have done. This attitude feeds into the repression of people who genuinely can't help the position they find themselves in. They live in a state of lifelong personal turmoil, fuelled in large part by the prejudices of the majority, while you fret about what toilets they can use. Wow.