The gauges I'm using are the ones recommended by the builders for the guitars in question, pfr. I'm pretty sure they know something! ;-)

When strings 'tear the bridge off' a guitar, I reckon it says more about the quality of the instrument, or the lack of care taken by the owner re: humidification, temperature, and selecting appropriate gauges, than it does about the strings themselves!

The usual disclaimers apply......IMHO, YMMV etc.