McGrath, sometimes there just isn't that much thought going into what you see. People are just being however they are in that moment, and to try to wring reasons out of it or impose change upon it is to try to influence it. Sometimes people are just thinking about something else entirely. Often, whatever they are thinking about is more important, long term, than what we might like them to focus on.

We can choose whether to evaluate what we see, or just sort of accept and deal with it. And I think our more accurate evaluations, if we choose to make them, are based on long-term interaction rather than short term. This is a good thing, since it allows us to make room in our thinking for the reality that all people are changing all the time. If someone chooses not to tag one moment of time with their name, then we just can incorporate that as one small piece of information about the universe on one short day.

I guess it boils down to intentionality. That's not a high value for everyone. But even among those who hold it dear, we don't always get it perfect. Nor do people looking on always "get" what we try to do from our intentionality.

Does it really matter in the big picture if I say I am WYSIWYG right now or if I say I was Droppped Cookie last time I posted? Because ya know either way, I am still just one meatball on a particular day in my life and yours, and though I change every day, I am still just:

~Susan