Spaceman, you sound like you do not normally speak English and are not an American. Is this true? If so, you must try to understand that 'spaw is just joking. He is one of the most gentle, caring people I have had the honor to talk/listen to. Most certainly where children are concerned. He was playing.

Everything you stated sounded obvious to me. If they come from a different culture, of course they will be frightened. Just be a little more gentle and understanding and maybe you can help them to adjust. My favorite saying when it comes to children is "Do it with love". Be it playing, teaching, punishing, etc...

Love, annamill