I don't know, Milly, it depends on so many personal factors that I'm not aware of, concerning you and him both.

I would think you'd be well advised to get some counseling yourself for a start. If you have the good fortune to hook up with a decent marriage counselor, then you will at least have some backup to help you along the way...and someone to bounce ideas off...and help you do a reality check if things get out of hand.

That's about all I can offer, I'm afraid. I've avoided marriage like the plague, although I have not avoided committed relationships. My own family experiences gave me little or no confidence in the legal institution of marriage. If I'd wanted kids, then it might have been a different story. Maybe.

- LH