Dear Milly, If you suggested counceling years ago it's time to remind him again. He may not be even be aware of how unhappy you are, you have to talk to him! Men and women are so different in that respect.

I have to agree with the others who say go to counseling even if it's by yourself, it may wake him up as to how serious you are and get him to go too. I would say it is easy to just walk away and start a new life, except you have children, it isn't just your life....it's theirs too and a huge responsibility.

With counseling and a desire on your's and your mate's part perhaps you can find each other again. They say A good marriage takes work and time, they aren't just a kidding!

Staying together "for the kids" won't work if you're both not willing to work toward a good marriage. But lets be honest, divorce takes a terrible toll on children. It's up to you and your husband to decide together, is it worth saving?

I wish you and your husband the very best and encourage you to talk to him Milly. He's your husband, reach out to him now, be strong and clear about how you feel and hopefully he'll respond. Sincerely, Nancy