I've been on the other side of the fence also. My wife knew that our marriage was over and was going on with the business of continuing her life (sort of) but without leaving the house. I had no idea! This made the hurt worse. We have two kids together and both of us felt that the kids were to be the number one priority. It took time to get over but now, about seven years later, my ex-wife is one of my best friends. She gets along royally with my wife and we all get together for special events in the kids lives. People think it is strange because anger and resentment are thought to be required in divorce but they don't have to be and they aren't in mine. It wasn't easy and it took a while but one thing's for certain, the healing can't start until the divorce does. The most important thing in my mind is don't wait. get it done and over with, the weight off your shoulders will be tremendous!!!

Frank