No one has mentioned the children?? What is their relationship with Dad? Is there absolutely no chance that you could love him again at some point? I have found through the years that sometimes I didn't love my husband(not Honey) for long periods, and then he would do something that endeared him to me again. Usually after I told him things just weren't right between us.

Go to him, without arguing, and tell him how you feel and that you are actually considering a divorce. After he blows up, storms around threatening you, and he finally calms down, ask him if he is ready to talk. Tell him you two need to talk, and very soon, and that you're serious.

You have to go from there. Both of you have to keep it civilized for the children. After all is done, you're divorced, living your new life and comparatively happy, they'll still be hurting. So keep it gentle and as painless as possible for them.

Don't do all this with the children around. Do it when you and he are alone.

I wish you good luck. I finally did it after 17 yrs of marriage and like Kendall, I only regret I hadn't done it sooner.

Love, annamill