Sounds like an emotionally tough situation to be in. I'm afraid I'm with those who think "having to ask permission to watch TV (or anything else)" spells the end of any REAL reconciliation. The process of separating is excruciating, but I have to say that the folks I know who've "re-invented" themselves are some of the happiest I've seen.

There IS a better life for you out there. Unhappy people together don't make happy children.

Good luck.

Rick