Hi Carol,(and flattop!!yuck, yuck--grin) Luke already is, and Kate refuses to tell her innermost to ANYBODY--so, we have to pull it out like eye teeth. Ref Counselors, Kate says....they don't know me, and I don't know them. They don't tell me their Deepest Darkest, so why should I tell them mine? My Mom understands More.........and Mom is at a loss, here.