You guys must think you're a bunch of farking mind-readers. Why not give someone the benefit of the doubt? Even if the person starting a particular thread is a phoney, the question is a good one, and maybe others will benefit from honest discussion of such a difficult issue.

For myself I am unable to determine who is phoney and who is real, so I assume somebody is very real until they tip their hand so completely that I can't continue the assumption. I don't see that Milly has done that.

Alex