I think the "outside of the circle" thing is called a "victim complex". I'm not saying that's anyone here, and I don't think it's usually a permanent state, but we're all capable of it. It's a failing of mine that I react badly to folks I think are moving through that state. Also, people who seem to need an inordinate amount of attention. But the main thing is that I have to figure out how to deal with my reactions in a way that doesn't make me crankier than I typically am. You know - that little voice in your head that says "Just let it go. Walk away." Sometime, it's about what I've mentioned here, and sometimes, it's because someone doesn't know how to use apostrophes, but in the end, it's not about the person doing that stuff, it's about how we let it affect us.