We have Lily's ashes back and one of our daughters said she would like to mix some with a resin and make a couple of 'Lily stones'. She said she would make them in a pale grey, which Lily was, and make a hollow for a tea light. Lily did love to lie in front of the fire in winter so it is very apt.

Molly seems to have taken up the mantle of cadging food and was even taking bits of fish out of my wife's hand on Friday. She has not done that for years. We also had the ducks return to our front garden this morning. They always visit in spring but this is their first autumn visit for the 8 years we have been here. Lily had a very odd relationship with the ducks. She tolerated them but I suspect it was only because the were bigger than her and they come in pairs :-)

We are still grieving of course but talking about her does help. It is odd but I can be sad and smile at the same time. All part of the process I suppose. While I was sorting out insurance stuff I came across this with our pet policy.

If you need any extra support during this difficult time, our partners at Blue Cross run a pet bereavement helpline on 0800 138 6515.

I have not felt the need myself but if anyone would like some help I think it is a free service. Uk based.

Thanks again all.