Jerry: Point of order, are Woody Guthrie, Pete Seeger & Ewan MacColl the orangs or the apples?

If the topic is 'carrying it on' your methods give you both fewer opportunities to connect with others and worse odds of doing so when the opportunity does present itself. They were awful to begin with under the best of circumstances. It's about people who are not you who will be 'carrying it on.'

If the topic is what you care about and how you prefer to to live your life, it's about you.

Orangs & apples I would agree.