I feel a little bit emotional reading Stilly's post from August 8 about giving advice, and about the boundaries thing.
There is certainly some truth in what the NYT printed.
At the same time, what seems intrusive on some occasions
can be welcome, and received gratefully, on others.
A lot depends on the person, as well,
like if you have goodwill towards the person who offers the advice.
To me, Stilly wouldn't be Stilly without the concern for others
and the closeness and intimacy she offers.

My problem is the opposite -- I keep a distance, and freeze people out.
And I envy people for whom it is natural to reach out to others.