Why? Because you continue to tell everything about yourselves. You "make" yourselves easy prey. The flamer(s) are going to choose that individual who is the most vulnerable, at any given time. You believe, because this is a folk music site, that everyone here is about peace and love. You have made this into a community and in every community there are those who rape and pillage. Someone is bound to be a victim. Requesting people to not rise to the flame is futile because the flamer(s) will just move on to their next victim. Better to have your say, than to feel you have stood by silently, while the rape continues.